January 29, 2019

National Council on Severe Autism

Posted in AMT's Faves, Life's Little Moments, My Take on Autism tagged , , , , , at 11:48 am by autismmommytherapist

A couple of weeks ago while procrastinating from what I should have been doing and scrolling through Facebook I saw a post that immediately caught my interest. It was from the National Council on Severe Autism (NCSA) which I had never heard of, and the title read “Suffering in Silence: The Dark Side of Autism.”

I actually put down my chocolate for better scrolling access, and I never put down my chocolate for anything.

I read the article by a mom out in California who spoke about an incident she had lived through with her eleven-year-old severely autistic son, one which culminated in the California Highway patrol pulling up behind her as she parked her car on the highway and hoped to quell the rage her son was displaying toward her so she could safely leave. Both her love and her fear for and of her son came through in every sentence, as well as her heartache in knowing that an attempt to take him ice skating could end this way.

These are the stories we do not see portrayed on tv on “The Good Doctor,” or in “Parenthood.” Yet, they exist. And they are tearing families apart.

People need to be made aware that even when autistic children receive the best of therapies, are in excellent school programs, and live with loving families, incidences of violence can occur.

And they, and their aftermath, can be devastating.

I have a fifteen-year-old severely autistic son with accompanying OCD, tics, and intellectual disability. There is no doubt in my mind (or even my husband’s) that of the few people in his inner circle that he loves, he is most attached to me. This is a child who at least once a day kisses me even when he doesn’t want anything and hugs me on a frequent basis. His level of outward affection has slowed somewhat since he became a teen, which I figure is appropriate for his age, but still we have a connection that through insomnia, aggression, refusing to eat, soul-sucking OCD, and this last year a terrible movement disorder that has since greatly resolved and has been diagnosed as tics, has remained true and strong.

And yet, despite this profound connection, we have survived our own aggressive incidences, some of which I have written about on my blog. Many I haven’t. It’s not because I’m embarrassed. It’s because I want the world to see him as I do- a loving, kind-hearted, intrinsically happy almost-man, despite his challenges.

I have no doubt that if I wrote more about the times I feared for his safety and for mine, people’s opinion of him would change. More than sharing with the world, I don’t ever want that to happen. I love this kid more than life. I want him to have as many options open to him as the world will provide. Thankfully we have moved beyond the period where it seemed like he was in constant meltdown, but I know many families are not so fortunate despite trying desperately to help their child.

Their stories need to be told too.

I’ve since been following the NCSA on Facebook. I saw within a week the backlash had started which I knew would happen, despite their mission statement proclaiming their desire in “Pursuing recognition, policy and solutions for the surging population of individuals, families and caregivers affected by severe forms of autism and related disorders,” which seems to me simply like a beneficial, and incredibly necessary thing to do.

My eldest son is not like the protagonist on “The Good Doctor.” He’s not like my other son with high-functioning autism. And yet the truth is, with two sons on opposite sides of the spectrum, I am thrilled when either side is represented. Seeing an individual with autism portrayed as brilliant on a top-rated show can only be beneficial to my youngest son, even if his autism doesn’t manifest in any way like the genius of Shaun Murphy.

But we need to share our stories of darkness too, in the hopes that awareness will result in better services for those on the severe side of the spectrum, those who cannot speak for themselves, those who require lifetime, 24/7 care. We need an organization like the National Council on Severe Autism to call attention to an underserved segment of the autism population, the one that nobody writes the “feel-good” stories about. The one that makes some of us uncomfortable.

The one perhaps impossible to capture on a television show.

I for one am thrilled with the creation of the NCSA, and wish them well. I am actively for any organization which can help my kids, and hopefully with time we will see the National Council on Severe Autism as major contributors in the goal of realizing safe, happy and productive lives for those severely affected.

We can only hope.

 

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6 Comments »

  1. Eileen said,

    Thank you for this interesting information and your view point about this organization and I agree with you and truly want the best help for our precious, grandson, who we help take care of on a daily basis, before and after school etc. So very important to bring attention to their needs and support all those who are involved in their daily lives, so they can grow and thrive to their highest level possible!

  2. Zombie Mom said,

    My son loves Halloween too lol! 🙂 He’s 17 and has a form of severe autism.

    Just curious…did your son overcome his movement disorder? You refer to it in the past tense. We’re going through that now, still no answers. We just know that stress and certain sounds can trigger the behaviors for him. He hears you but he can barely walk when it’s happening. Started several months ago. We have an appointment to see the movement specialist at Yale Neurology but it’s several months away. Just curious what your and your son’s experience has been.

    Thank you!

    • Our son was initially diagnosed at Kennedy Krieger with catatonia, but we didn’t agree with the diagnosis and went to CHOP and Penn where he was diagnosed with tic disorder. He is doing better. Maybe bring up the catatonia when you’re there, it’s hard to diagnosis. I wish you the best of luck, hang in there!

  3. bonusmom48 said,

    This! This is us!


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